Manhood’s Consensual Homicide

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This article has been edited and updated from its original content as of 10-23-2019 due to certain statements I made and information I presented. My apologies for presenting any unbiblical information.

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The sky is black. Smoke is in the air. Gunfire.

This is war. 

Meanwhile, we’re blind, because the sky is blue for everyone else, and there’s no smoke. The gunfire isn’t real. There’s no war. 

That’s what we think.

In this most desperate time, we’ve either put down our guns or we’re shooting each other. We’ve either unloaded our weapons or fired them at someone getting attacked by the same enemy attacking us. We wake up, and there’s nothing but ourselves. We are our world. 

All the while, people die. Many consider suicide. Most cry in their rooms, broken because they can’t figure it out.

Everyone breathes, life is normal, pain is present, Satan destroys, we’re deceived, no one cares.

Women claim authority, men sit back. Lies are told about Christ and the Gospel and false converts are made. Deceit runs rampant. People just don’t know, or if they do, they don’t care enough or are too scared to speak up.

Many times the question is asked, “Where are the men?”

According to Wikipedia, consensual homicide is “when one person kills another, with the consent of the person being killed.” I title this post in the way that I did, “Manhood’s Consensual Homicide,” because what’s happened to manhood is not simply because men are failures. I think men are bashed and beat down a lot, so I don’t really wanna do that in this post. What I do want is for both men and women to recognize that there is a war going on and both genders have roles  to be playing and things to be doing.

It’s time for us as the Church to wake up.

Paul writes in 1 Thessalonians 5:6-10,

So then let us not sleep, as others do, but let us keep awake and be sober. For those who sleep, sleep at night, and those who get drunk, are drunk at night. But since we belong to the day, let us be sober, having put on the breastplate of faith and love, and for a helmet the hope of salvation. For God has not destined us for wrath, but to obtain salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ, who died for us so that whether we are awake or asleep we might live with him.

ESV

So are you sleepin’, or are you awake?

In a world so dark, we must be light. In a disgusting and decaying place, it is our duty to be salt.

‘You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet. ‘You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.

Matthew 5:13-16, ESV

Salt adds taste, adds flavor to things. It is also a preservative. But if we are not salty, we are no good. It’s just like Revelation 3:16:

So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth.

ESV

Lukewarm water ain’t good for nothin’. It’s not. It’s distasteful to drink. And who is this passage addressed to? “The church in Laodicea” (Revelation 3:14). To Christians.

Sure, maybe we can go through a list of all the things we do, but are we really living for God? Ask God if who you’re really living for is Him.

So where does manhood come into this?

Manhood comes into this as a vital component to life that our society has tried to suppress, demonize, and mock. Feminism has helped to destroy our nation. This is why the article is titled in the way that it is. 

While it’s true that men are responsible for sitting back and not being leaders, and doing (or not doing) whatever else they have, it’s also true that our society has pushed this and women have stepped up and fought against men. Even self-proclaimed Christian women have backed feminism ferociously.

If life is a war, we need soldiers, and that is not the job of women. Men are to protect and provide, both spiritually and physically, and this doesn’t just go for those who are married. I, as a young man, am to protect the girls in my life physically, spiritually, and emotionally.

This means several things for me.

Several Things it Means

Firstly, I am to take a position of leadership over a group I’m a part of before a woman does if possible. Paul explains the reasoning for this in 1 Timothy 2. A man in a group should be the leader; a woman should not be leading and directing men unless there is a very good reason. 

For example, I’m one of the student leaders of my school’s Fellowship of Christian Students (FCS) group, but I’m under the authority of my female teacher who plays a large role in running and facilitating the group. She is my elder and I’m not yet considered to be an adult. So, I’d consider that good, biblical reasoning for her to be in authority over me.

And, if you have a problem with what I said about male leadership, I’m not making it up. Read the Bible for yourself:

Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor.

1 Timothy 2:11-14, ESV

As a leader of FCS, I have a God-given responsibility to teach what is true to those that attend our meetings. Not only that, but I have a responsibility to ensure that what is being taught (even if it’s not by me) is true. 

Within FCS, we have two named student leaders: me and a girl in my grade. So as not to name her, we’ll call her Rachel. So, we have two student leaders and our teacher as the main sources of authority within FCS. We also have two other teachers that would have authority over Rachel and I as well. When I say Rachel and I have authority,  

In the position of the authority God has put me in, I am responsible for what’s taught to the students in FCS and also feel obligated to care for their spiritual needs as far as I appropriately and efficiently can and am allowed biblically. 

I am therefore not saying I am anyone’s spiritual authority within the group, as the fathers of the girls are their foremost spiritual authority, and if the guys are not yet considered men, then so are their fathers. Therefore, my spiritual input in those in FCS’s lives is as a brother in Christ who has been given authority to teach within FCS. This spiritual care may be indirect. For instance, for girls in FCS if need be, I would normally ask Rachel to minister to them in whatever way is necessary, unless I can somehow communicate with their fathers.

Paul told Timothy,

Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father, younger men as brothers,older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity.

1 Timothy 5:1-2, ESV

Thus, I ought to act as a brother to students in FCS. As a young man, as a brother in Christ, I’m especially obligated to protect the spiritual well being of the girls in the group, as far as is appropriate.

When talking about what is allowed for men and women, Paul uses two reasons based on the “Creation Account” to explain why he says what he says about men and women. He says, “For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor” (1 Timothy 2:13-14, ESV). I know I already quoted that passage, but I want you to better understand what Paul’s saying. I also want you to understand that what I’m talking about is taken and applied straight from the Bible, not merely my own opinion.

I am also to protect the emotional and physical well-being of the women in my life. That’s not to say I shouldn’t strive to protect the physical and emotional well-being of everyone, because I ought to, at least within certain bounds. But, I ought to put the women first and foremost. 

This means not playing emotional games with them, messing with their hearts, manipulating them, or anything of the sort. And, obviously, I should be willing to take a bullet for them. I should be willing to run at an assailant with a gun if that’s what it takes, even if it means getting killed.

Our society has suppressed and lied about the role of men and what it ought to be. They’ve told us that women can take care of themselves and that they don’t need men. In fact, patriarchy is frequently villainized. This is not from God; it is from Satan.

Our society has suppressed and lied about the role of men and what it ought to be.

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Due to the length of this article, I will likely write a “Part Two” in order to continue this discussion of why it’s important for men to rise up and women to allow this. In the next article, we can take a more in-depth look at how the Church desperately needs men to be warriors in order to be the salt and light we’re called to be. We’ll also get into the reality of the war-like nature of the lives we live and talk about how women play into the stuff I’ve been discussing.

This Part Two post may go up mid-week, or the normal time (Saturday). So, stay tuned!

For the guys, I’ll leave you with one last verse and urge you to listen to and apply it well:

Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.

1 Corinthians 16:13, ESV

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